” there are guys who I set up multiple times ” = This I believe
” 44 diferent girls ” = Hmm, but ok, I’ll take the number at face value. But its still a stretch. Think about it: considering the available weeks / days a person can date (once you eliminate yom tovim, 9 days, ect)and the time it takes to check references, to date 44 girls you’re talking about a very busy scedule (unless it was over a 4-5 year period. Or the shidduch was suggested (so that counts as a “set up date”) but never followed up on (which in my mind, counts as zip)
“he was over the one hundred mark when he got engaged.” = Unless he dated for 5-6 years, I think this is in the realm of the other conquestes he no doubt claims to have achieved. Either that, or every name that he was offered (even if he stood a zero chance of her saying “yes” to a date) but he turned down, in his mind, he thinks he had “100 girls”
To that I say, “I coulda be a contender” Same lack of connect with reality. A date is a date if you go out and spend 3-4 hours with someone. To say that someone can meet 100+ people and not meet ANYONE that is a good match means one of two things:
* You don’t know what you’re looking for (and you’re wasting valuable time)
* You’re not telling people what you really want, so they keep setting you up with the wrong people (and you’re wasting valuable time .
I have posted the following quote before, but it is worth repeating. Its from Rav Pam, Z’tl:
“People ask me if I can introduce them to people that can help them find a good shidduch.
The 1st person I introduce them to is themselves”