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WIY: The question wasn’t directed at me but one contributing factor whether she will continue to learn (assuming she currently is this type) is whether you expect her to be a “supermom” or not. If you want her to work (especially full time) while raising a family and running a “perfect” home it’s not likely she’ll have the time and energy to devote to shiurim etc. without collapsing from the pressure.
However, don’t be judgmental if she’s not “learning” at any given point as marriage, having kids, a new job etc. are not easy transitions that will need some adjusting to and figuring out how to juggle everything.
Also you can’t pre-plan life’s curveballs, you may for example have triplets, so don’t forget to be flexible and fair in your expectations. We don’t run the world.