Reply To: Dating/marriage question, Am I realistic…?

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“5. If you are asking whether it is something normal to want–I’m not sure. I’d like to hear more about why you want it. Is it so that you can discuss these things with her, or so that you will make sure she always feels similar to how you do, or I don’t know why.”

My reason is because I want a certain type of house and I think that if a girl doesn’t keep learning, like a man her hashkafos and “shtarkeit” will atrophy. Both spouses need to be growing and even if a wife has work and kids to take care of, if she isnt spending significant time on her ruchniyus and working on her self she will go down hill. Women are no different from men in this regard that we need constant chizuk and we need to keep our hashkafos in check.