SaysMe -“Health-meant i’m not getting into the discussion of whether it was muttar or not, cuz thats a halacha q. But i’m quite sure that the ‘hurting the relative’ comment was assur.”
First you say you won’t discuss Ossur or Mutter, then you say the comment about the relative is Ossur! A little contradiction -don’t you think? It probably is a good idea for you not to say Mutter or Ossur -it doesn’t sound like you have such a handle on Halacha like some of us here.
And I’m pretty sure that that comment is Mutter, unless she was putting down the relative and not just the OP!