RD: You are wrong. Ashkenzi P’sak is almost always like the Rama (in the SH”A, not necessarily the Tshuvos) and to Lechatchilah go against something he only Mattirs B’dieved is something we cannot do without some serious dissent from the Achronim. You would have been far better served quoting the Shach as Paskening like the Mechaber (I looked for it but couldn’t find it; but I know that Rav Schachter quotes it) rather than writing off the Shittah of the Rama. That is something that requires a lever far greater than yours (or mine, or PBA’s, or anyone’s here) to say and it behoove you to recognize that fact, especially if the burden of Paskening for others rests upon you. Of course, it would also greatly behoove you to recognize just how much of a burden that is.
Now, the reason I came back to this thread was not to disagree with you. PBA and DY did a good enough job. The reason was to defend PBA. He is far from a bully. We have had our disagreements and he has insulted me on occasion. That does not change the fact that he does not insult to get a power trip or to put someone down. He insults when he feels that it is necessary to ensure that others do not get confused by what he perceives as a slight to HKBH’s or the Torah’s honor. Now, I might disagree with him on occasion as to what constitutes a slight to HKBH’s honor. But it would more than behoove you to think about what he has said and why he has said it, and perhaps realize that he is far closer to being in the right here than you are.