The content of this thread is becoming irritating. It sounds like the equating of “attractive” with “provocative”. The former is acceptable, though not the ideal goal, as we are told explicitly “??? ??? ???? ?????”. The latter is plainly assur, and constitutes a violation of creating challenges of hirhurim. It is as assur for men to be triggered as it is for women to be the cause of such triggers.
Couples should spend enjoyable time together, and it does not need to involve the glorifying of taavos. There are forms of enjoyment that couples should have which are not meant for publicity, neither in the actual involvement nor in the public discussion of them.
My suggestion is this thread either be closed, or the comments limited to the aspects of this subject that are appropriate for exposure and public discussion.