automatically the shadchan thinks of prospects similar to what the others in the family got… the other information is fine since it does make up who you are, for example a teacher gives a class a project to do on exactly the same thing. every kid has to do sth origional, one kid shares with another his/her plans, inevitably that is stuck in his mind and whatever idea he thinks of psychologically he will always come up with turning similar ideas around in his mind similar to his friends’… same with shadchanim, share your ‘ideas’ and they won’t come up with anything origionally specifically designed for the girl/boy, but rather the inspiration will be based on the “other ideas”.. get the gist? that’s why this practice of writing machutunim in resume’s should be banned unless you are looking for a similar type.
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