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I didn’t try to figure out what I wanted. Instead I did a lot of deep introspection and self reflection and when I spoke to the shadchan I told her, ‘this is who I am and this is what I want for the future. I want someone who can help me get there and I want that given what I have to offer, I can help that someone earn the future that he’s striving for.’ I didn’t give her any stipulations on what he should look like now, only that he want the same future as me.