Hakadosh Baruch Hu makes all the shidduchim, and as with everything else HKBH knows how to arrange it for each individual. for some people the shadchan route won’t work, for various reasons, family, money, yichus, status, etc. , so maybe Hashem makes those shidduchim come about in a more “natural” way. Its always Hashem pulling the strings. When my grandmother was a young unmarried woman, she had to support herself as a seamstress. When her machine broke she had someone come to fix it. He too was orphaned from his father and had to support himself. Well, he kept on coming back, claiming he needed to order another part etc, until there was a shidduch. My great-grandmother was completely hysterical, that her daughter could get engaged with out a shadchan ,”finding the boy herself” and she ran to the Rebbe that they followed. The Rebbe listened to her and asked the name of boy and where they re from. When he heard it , he took out the bronfen and made a L’chaim and said Mazel tov. he said that this was such a fine shidduch that they wouldn’t even look at her if the boy hadn’t been orphaned and forced to seek a profession, as they were a very illustrious family. my point. Hashem makes the shidduchim. and all this took place in Poland in 1925-6 approximately.
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