OOmis -“My Rov disagrees with you about girls lighting,and there are also shittos that it SHOULD be done (we don’t in my family, but that is our choice). He agrees that married women should not, but believes that the more members who each have his/her own menorah, the more mehudar the fulfillment of the mitzvah.”
First of all, why did you say “disagree” -when I just posted that I told my girls to light (if they wanted to) and not my wife?
Are you not able to comprehend my post?
Second of all, unless you live in Passaic, I doubt you and her have the same Rov.
But from Reading the Whole Topic here -it seems that many hold Girls Should Not light. So You Should Not tell her what to do, but she should ask her Own Rabbi/Rov!