Mazel Tov! I think it’s only fools who aren’t nervous before such a big event.
About marriage…
Get ready to develop your middos.
John Gray’s “Men are From Mars” was a useful tool for understanding why men consider a vacuum cleaner a great gift, and why women need to go shopping (or something like that). It helps if you can use the ideas to build empathy, the cornerstone of a healthy relationship.
Empathy is the ability to give the other person the feeling that you understand where they are coming from, and are there to emotionally support them. It is not taking your wife’s side against her boss (in a typical situation) “Wow, he is so mean”. (Or worse, “I’m going to give him a piece of my mind!”) In fact, your wife would (in normal circumstances) want you to just hear her out, and help her ride out the wave of the emotion so she can get to a place where she can make peace with whatever incident occurred and move on.
Also, Rome wasn’t built in a day – when you encounter a bump, keep a sense of proportion. A good relationship is built in the course of years.
@Be Happy: that reminds me of a funny variation – never go to sleep angry – stay up and fight! Actually, we have a different rule – never go to sleep angry, just go to sleep with the knowledge that when you wake up, you’ll have more mental and creative energy to see the other’s perspective.
May you be zoche to build a bayis ne’eman b’Yisroel filled with bracha.