I was wondering…..doesn’t G-d control who you marry and when you marry? As long as you do your hishtadlus there is no crises. So why are we finding causes and suggesting solutions when it is all part of G-d’s plan.
For an imdividual, you’re right. But society’s hishtadlus has to take the whole picture into account, and if that means closing the age gap, then that’s the hishtadlus which needs to be done.