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anon1m0us
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I think it’s funny that every frum think the “other” side has a harder time finding a shidduch. In YWN, it’s the working boys and in the other sites (can’t name them since it might be deleted) it’s the learning boys.

I, as a working boy, had a list of 10 girls on it each week. There was no shortage of dates and I never went without two dates a week. While my best friend, who is a learning boy, had a harder time. B’h we are both now married.

The point is….I think the shidduch crises is a man made crisis created by people who don’t have dates. In reality, there are 107 boys born for every girl (yes, worldwide, not jews alone). In addition, currently, there are also more than 100 MILLION men than women, as reported in the UN Census (http://www.geohive.com/earth/pop_gender.aspx). It’s sad though that Israel does have more women, which can be attributed to deaths from war.

One of the reasons why we have a “man made shidduch crises” is the refusal of both parties to travel to each other. For example, my learning friend refused to travel to Monsey for a date because it was a shlep. He would rather not date then to travel an hour for the girl. Funny thing is, he married a Monsey girl. Or a girl from Baltimore won’t travel for a guy standing on the principle the man should come to her. We stand on too many foolish principles!! The only time both parties are willing to travel is when they start getting older and more desperate.

SO in essence, there are more than enough guys who sit and learn for learning boys and enough guys for girls who want working boys.