“First, no comparison, beauty is much more subjective.”
Girls want to marry a “learning boy” it is their number 1 priority supposedly, so to harp on his learning would actually make sense. Are you arguing that beauty is the number 1 priority for guys, to the point where they require a photo in advance despite the fact that most girls are not repulsive?
“Plus I could say “and what makes him an authority to judge my learning”.
And I can say, what makes that fat yenta with a moustache an authority on beauty that she needs a picture.