far east: Notice my semantics. My apologies, I should have made the difference more blatant. In life, one cannot have a mature argument if they alter the other’s statement. I did not say attractiveness, I said attraction. Attraction is crucial, her attractiveness (in the physical sense) is not so necessary.
Logician: “Telling us to date those we like for their inside, and then try your best to become attracted to them based on that – no, I am very sorry, you most assuredly do NOT get what men are.”
I have not said to disregard everything physical, just not to make life-long judgments based on it. My objection is on sending a picture and having the entire worth of a person be dependent on his/her looks, before you have even met him/her!
Yes, you had better find one another to be appealing to the eye, but that factor should not be decided until after you have given each other the decency of getting know the person.
Because, far east and Logician, perceptions do change.