There is a shidduch crisis- but maybe its BECAUSE evryone has ridiculous expectations- maybe just let them go out and see- in the old days there seemed to be no shidduch crisis- maybe the system is broken- maybe its not the best way for it to be handled- maybe the shidduch crisis is because a guy wont go out with a girl without a picture- but most girls don’t agree with pictures being given out- some are not against it- but im pretty sure not many if at all are for it- and its not histadlus- the checking out is histadlus the first date is histadlus but a picture im pretty sure is not- no one is saying u can’t ask about her looks etc- but at a certain point its going to far- it has to stop somewhere- we r NOT pieces of meat for sale or come pick ur perfect match etc- we r human with feelings and would like to be treated as such- most of the time the girl has met the shadchan- trust the shadchan! Seriously! Im not evn getting into halacha as to whether or not they can look at those pictures cuz im not a guy and i dont no all the details- but I do know it makes a girl feel more degraded like she’s a thing and not a person and if a guy asks for a pic i prob wuldnt wanna go out with him anyway- just my personal opinion- if im not worth the time of a first date unless i look a certain way then he’s not worth my time!
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