Yitzy99:
“One thing about weight. If a person wants to change their weight, it is doable, but it may take work. Such traits as a gloomy personality, pessimism, character flaws,and anger are much harder to change. So if weight is your problem, your much better off than someone with a nasty disposition.”
First of all-to people that are overweight, losing it is the biggest/hardest challenge. It’s not fair to make an assumption that changing an intrinsic personality trait is harder than losing 50 pounds. Second of all, if we go with your arguement- how come it doesn’t work in the ‘real world’ of shidduchim? IMHO it’s because a boy can tell right away from the resume picture what a girl looks like so if she isn’t “desirable” she’ll be written off. Nasty personality traits will only crop up once the dating process has begun.