cofefan – about what to do during this time? make new friends. go on trips to israel, go to shiurim, etc. and you’ll meet other amazing people and make new friends!
most of the people who are telling people to lose weight or who think guys want the size 2 girl are women.
i know many men who do NOT prefer the skinny, anorexic look.
if someone is not just padded, but is obese – that is a health issue, and they should try to get help.