I have a great respect for Yiddishkeit. I love Torah and mitzvos and all things that come with it. And I have seen firsthand that it is those closed, narrow families who try to fit their kids into a very tight box of what is allowed or expected of them that end up with their kids off the derech. Seen it too many times in my community. Those families who are slightly more open and understand that their children cannot be squashed within boundaries end up with their children remaining close to our roots. The predominant cause of going off the derech is actually refusing to see what our children really need from us since we are all individuals. Telling a gifted and artistic child that they are not allowed to paint cause it’s ‘not what we do’ or showing signs of hypocrisy in behavious – that is the problem.
And I see that you declined to either acknowledge my post or apologise to me for what you said. That is a direct contravention of halacha (you falsely accused me of saying something I did not). I am still waiting for my bracha from you, though I am not sure what you could say to me that I would consider a sincere one.