Ah, I see. Thank you for explaining. Well, I happen to think that the two are more closely related than it would appear, since in the second way, the person believes, from his viewpoint, that the other person is wrong.. and it is very possible, that from the viewpoint of the other person, according to the sechel that G-d gave him, the first person is wrong. And now, you have a situation where each one thinks the other is wrong, while in reality, it is entirely possible that they are both correct for their own personal circumstances. Isn’t that possible?
Of course, there may be a situation where a person is CERTAINLY wrong, no matter what the circumstance. But I think with most mature, somewhat knowledgeable adults, their own personal values and circumstances shape their opinions so much, to the point where they cannot possibly believe that another opinion is valid. It takes maturity and open-mindedness to realize that there are usually other valid opinions.
Regarding the YU thing, that IS my stand. And that is usually my stand for just about everything. Different things work for different people, and I don’t believe in pushing one path on everyone. It’s possible that I have this mindset because of the way I grew up, with being in contact with all types of Jews and all types of people, and my mom engraved in me the fact that different things work for different people. If you can understand this, great. If not, I’m sorry.