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Yeshivishsocrates1 -“I don’t know why ‘toeva’ marriages are so bothersome to people or why you extrapolate from a very specific word used by the Torah concerning men that the female counterpart is also called ‘toeva.'”
Noone extrapolated anything. We don’t have to exclude females when we are talking about this in general by mentioning them separately. I can’t understand your defense on females -it’s also Ossur even if not as bad as males.
“The act under discussion is described by the Torah as toeva and therefor it is so but can anyone explain why we’re bothered by them getting married? They’re doing whatever we call toeva anyway, all this does is give them a certificate for calling themselves a married couple. I’ve heard several arguments against ‘toeva’ marriage but I’m yet to be convinced. I’ve heard it’s about the sanctity of marriage – we don’t respect a civil union anyway, we have our own weddings and would happily leave it at that so as far as I’m concerned, let them ruin the sanctity of the civil dress up weddings. Someone help?”
This has been discussed many times in the CR. Here is one time:
From the topic of -“Our Dor and the Dor Hamabul”.
“Health – Wrong… Second of all, I posted here many times, that Chazal say once they write Kesubos on this (marriage contracts) that this (automatically?) brings about destruction. I live in this world and I shouldn’t be concerned about its’ destruction?”