HaLeiVi: I once asked Rav Schachter about handshakes. He said that if she’s pretty it’s probably Yeihareg V’al Ya’avor. If she’s not, it’s probably Muttar Lechatchilah. And I was intentionally vague about it because what is considered Derech Chibah can be so different based on the time and place. (I know of a prominent Rabbi who once told kids in a co-ed high school that high-fives were fine, but those would certainly be Derech Chibah and Yeihareg V’al Ya’avor in other communities.)
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