Imagine a parent saying i will pay your rent but only if you live in a particular place? i will pay tuition but only in a certain school. i accept that this is not quite the same, but any parent who decides things for their grandchildren is overstepping her boundaries. “
Believe it or not, there ARE parents who do exactly that. Their gifts come with strings attached. And I believe that is very wrong. There is a world of difference between that and buying shoes for grandchildren. Ask yourself WHY you feel the parents do not want their kids to have the shoes. we are not talking about them spoiling them with an Xbox or Disney Vacation, or even unnecessary designer jeans, just a pair of Shabbos shoes. Way too much fuss is being made over this, in my very humble opinion.
And just as an aside, though it’s really not a big deal, my screen name is oomis (a nickname form of “ema”)