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Ask yourself what you’re nervous about.
We tend to have expectations and a mental image of events prior to their occurring.
Try to play through your expectations in your mind. You may be catastrophizing and you need to recognize that you’ll be ok even if those events were to occur.
Now imagine playing it out with smooth and positive results. Try to form a mental image, with relaxed body language and confident voice. If that’s hard for you, try to call to mind someone you know who speaks and acts with confidence, and try to mimic their body language and voice on your own to make it more a part of yourself.
When you are on the date, work on making the other person comfortable. This might take your focus off of yourself and help you to loosen up.