To Lemony Snicket
Over the years I have seen what I thought to be the most incompatible couple have a happy and vice versa as well.
This is the most important decision you will make in your life and you should give yourself enough time to make an unhurried and thought out decision.
You have to realistically put down on paper in order of priority what you consider important in a spouse. Whether that list you produce should be the list to use is not the point here.
Assuming you know what is really important in a spouse you can then determine how the other person measures based on your priorities. If she scores on most of them then go for it.
Do you look forward to seeing and speaking to her or do you feel that it is a mechanical process you are going through?
You are silent as to how the other person behaves towards you. Does she exhibit excitement when you go out together? Don’t forget. She is also keeping a cheshban as well.
You should daven for siyattah dishmaya and may HKB”H give you chonein daas to make the right decision.
One thing I can can guarantee. Do not make your decision primarily on physical looks. Looks are very important but there are some very beautiful people out there who are not necessarily the best looking people.
I have seen some very good looking divorced men and women.
Remember one thing.The best shidduch is where each person thinks they are getting the better deal.