RebRY
Unfortunately a lot of frum people are uneducated and are very stupid about these types of things. I have overheard quite a few adults over 50 say stupid things like “whats the big deal” so what that he touched a kid there…
In situations where there was no intercourse I think a lot of people dont comprehend that it is enough to ruin a kids life.
They also think that what was done is done why ruin a mans life and destroy his family. The res a lot involved.