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My advice, as usual, is not to set any prerequisites yourself.

When I went looking, the only things I asked for where 1) she shouldn’t be seriously overweight and 2) she must speak at least some English. (That was in Israel and I spoke, already then, rather good Ivrit.) The very first shidduch I went on was the very last one as well – I found the right girl immediately. I still don’t know how that happened, seeing that others go through 100 and yet can’t find the one for them!

Basically, if you don’t think the other one is ugly, if you have some common background and common interests and common hashkafa and plans for the future, go for it. It doesn’t have to be complicated.

Anyway, I don’t have any practical advice either. I would advice any other BTs however, not to wait 22+ years before starting on the shidduch market. I myself was 16-17 when I started becoming frum, came to E”Y at age 19, and got married at age 21. There is no point in waiting until you’re 30 – it will be a lot harder to 1) find someone and 2) get used to married life, by then.