There’s a difference between wanting money (read “BIG” money) and wanting stability.
This may not be the case with you, but, I find a lot of people who are not settled financially, and who are rejected for this, blame the women for being shallow.
There’s nothing shallow about wanting to feel secure that rent can be paid, utilities, food, health coverage, etc.
There are those who wouldn’t date a guy who couldn’t get them a 2 carot diamond or larger, who couldn’t provide them with a nice home, vacations, etc.
Then there are those in between. They’re not demanding big money, but they want more than getting by.
Most people want either a very good learner or a very good worker. People don’t strive for mediocre.can you blame them??
Your zivug is out there, but she might take longer to find as you sift through those who are looking for the guy, not the resume.