Avi: You can’t dilute Judaism and then go find some rabbi who is “meikel” or because you are afraid someone else who isn’t stringent will make you look bad to goyim.
And second of all, why are you r”l trying to convince a Yirei Shamayim (the OP) who specifically said she won’t violate this, to actually violate what she already indicated she will not. Kudos to her.