I was once in my Rosh Yeshiva’s office when a fomer student called to speak with him. The guy was having some shalom bayis issues. My RY spoke to him, then returned to his conversation with me. He said to me, “One of the biggest issues today is that people think their Rebbe should do everything! If you have trouble in your marriage, go see a marriage counselor! If your Rav is trained in that, great. But most aren’t – and they feel it’s part of their job, and end up doing more harm than good. If you are sick, you see a doctor. If you need help with your marriage, go see a marriage counselor! People nowadays don’t blow their nose without asking their Rebbe first! It’s a big problem!”
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