Re: the lady who refused help in carrying her stroller up.
“She said no. And she was correct. We should not be friends. “
I could not disagree more. When the Torah itself SPECIFIES that when one’s DONKEY has fallen under its burden, that one should not just stand idly by, but rather help the owner to get the donkey back up (and presumably lift some of its burden, which clearly the donkey could no longer handle, are we to actually believe that a woman struggling to carry a stroller up the stairs is less choshuv than a donkey????????? That makes a donkey out of a man who stands by and watches (not you, because you CORRECTLY and kindly offered to help, and I believe SHE was totally wrong to refuse to accept the help). Helping someone does not make them friends. But it does show Ahavas Yisroel. FTR, I would have offered to do the same for a non-Jewish woman.