“Call me crazy or different but I never understood this whole excitement for dating and getting married that my friends had and frankly now that I know what I know and have seen many couples in action and very few happily married why would any single (if he or she isnt particularly bored or lonely) want to get married?”
I was like you. I loved my life and had no interest in confining myself to marriage. Especially since I’ve seen so many marriages turn awry.
I no longer share your mindset. It took incessant nagging from my bubby for me to even agree to talk to a shadchan but God made the first one be my bashert. People are frequently desperate to get married and they end up with someone they don’t deserve (for better or for worse). There is no comfort and happiness in the world as when two soulmates find each other. There’s a magnificent, deep connection two soulmates have. You know you’ve found your soulmate when you’ve found yourself in a better version. That I should find someone so unbelievably perfect for myself, was something I never could have dreamed of. Every day is beautiful because I know I can trust him to give him my life and future and I know he has done the same.
I didn’t believe in soulmates. I thought the whole concept of bashert was bogus. It took until this that I realized without any semblance of doubt that there has to be a God. God was screaming His existence throughout our entire dating and through the wedding and up until now.
Marriage is beautiful and God is wonderful for us the gift of marriage. Others may have bad experiences but it’s only because they either haven’t married their bashert or because they weren’t ready for their bashert when they got married.