kollel_wife-before you get to the forgiveness part, you should be working on your marriage, ie speaking to a Rav or someone your husband might listen to (ie a good friend, therapist). Perhaps, encourage that he go to lectures on Shalom Bayis. The reason to forgive your husband is not bc he deserves it. It is bc he asked for mechila, and you too want mechila from Hashem for any mistakes you might have made. You could discuss this issue with him saying, that since he feels the need to ask for mechila, then he must realize there is something wrong with the way he talks to you. You could start now by saying, if he plans on asking you this year for mechila again, you’d like him to first go speak to a Rav so that he won’t have to keep repeating the same request year after year..Hatzlacha!.
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