Bustercrown –
If you want anything to change, I think you are going to have to confront him. At the same time, there is no point in confronting him if he is going to feel like you are judging him, ashamed of him, or if he even just gets the impression that you think he isn’t likely to change. If you confront him and are seriously looking for thinks to improve then you are going to have to make him feel that you believe in him and want to be with him, and that you will be with him every step of the way while he works on breaking this habit. If he doesn’t feel this then there’s no point in confrontation, but I think that confrontation is the only chance things will improve for you, so what I’m really saying is that you should work on yourself and your own attitude so that you’ll able to confront him in this healthy and productive way. Bitzzz (http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/when-your-spouse-gets-outed/page/4#post-395805) has already enumerated various practical applications of this.