Repharim- “If you are not strong enough to do this yourself then you do something even better – install the filter on the computer, password it – tell him that you are installing it for the children. If he asks you for the password counter his question with asking him why he needs it. Obviously he will make up a legit site to go to and just tell him that if he needs to go to a site you will be more than happy to help him – but under no circumstance should you give him the password. Don’t ever let him watch you type it in, don’t make the password anything he will ever figure out. Check on the computer occasionally that the software is installed – you never know because he could uninstall it. IF he does uninstall it – the only thing you can do at this point is tell him the truth and do it nicely, calmly, understandingly and he will thank you in the long run.”
I pray to God that nobody takes this advice. This can destroy a marriage much faster then an addiction can. You dont understand how an addicts brain works. In his head He sees a goal, and then he needs the goal. By you manipulating his environment in order to stop him from achieving his goal, You become the source of his frustrations. This tears people apart. Your husband is not a child whom your babysitting. He is your EQUAL partner in life and it is your duty as a spouse to treat him like the adult that he is. IMO there is no one way to fix these type of situations. Every situation is different and its a decision that the couple needs to discuss.