Buster , i feel so sorry for you, most of the advice i can give you cannot be posted here, i have known many good people some of them in even in full time learning that fell to schmutz , its something that women cannot understand that once a man falls deep into it , its so hard to get out of it. Your Rav has a good point if you approach him directly he may get too embarresed and run away from marriage, but if you dont “force him out of it” you wont succeed in stoping him and you will get too angry at him to also continue your marriage. Its a sickness and it doesnt mean he doesnt like you by the fact he watches this. first stage is you have to somehow get the computer out of the house(blame the kids blame yourself ) it will be very hard because if he thinks you dont know what is going on he wont want to get rid of it or stop what he is doing -its an addiction, you have to keep him busy that he wont have extra time on computer. you have to mention it to him that you heard there is a problem with men even good frum ones that “fall” into looking at bad things on net(you can mention articles bina and mishpacha etc) but nothing directly like you are suspecting him. show him how upset you would be if he would do this(but say im sure you dont) it may shake him up a drop and with you trying to cut him down on compuiter it may make a change, and once again there are other things to do also but not for a public fourm . good luck.
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