Bustercrown – I agree that you can’t do nothing. I can’t see how this would make the situation anything but worse. Perhaps you should not be the one to confront him at first, but SOMEONE MUST. I will say that I am a husband whose wife a while back realized that I was looking at things that I shouldn’t. Without giving too much away, let me just say that due to who I am and who she knows me to be, she was shocked and very angry. She confronted me, and I was humiliated. However, it has changed my life for the better, and I am grateful to her. We have B”H had a strong marriage, and while this tested it, it is B”H stronger than ever. She didn’t attack me personally, but expressed her shock, disappointment, and anger quite clearly. I now know that I can enlist her help to do the things that I may be too weak to do on my own. I can’t promise that your husband will have the same reaction, but trying to hint around and leaving it unaddressed will simply make the situation fester and worsen – on both sides. Please ask another person with Da’as Torah, whom you trust, for a second opinion.
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