GAW -“How about someone who speaks Lashon Hara occasionally but tries to stop? Talks during Davening?”
Good point. Our generation has taken every Nisayon and put it in black and white terms. You eat Traif once in awhile -“You’re a Goy”! You look at inappropriate things – “You’re a Goy”!
You speak LH -“Ok, we’ll look the other way!” You smoke -“Ok, we’ll look the other way!” I could go on and on -there are many examples.
Now, I’m not going into why we do this here -this alone is an extremely big topic -perhaps rooted in Sinas Chinum.
My point here is that whether it’s smoking or whether it’s looking at inappropriate things, by and far most Frum people do this because of some underlying psych issue. The leaders have Not even begun to deal with this issue, let alone remove the Stigma that the Frum community has against people seeking Mental Health help!