I don’t believe anybody actually is unsure of what to
=> The Gedolim say don’t fight; sit and learn. So don’t fight; sit and learn!!
=> The IDF unfortunately don’t make it very easy for Chareidim to serve – some of the stories reminded me of the Russian armies in WW1 where they tried to take the soldiers drafted away from Yiddishkeit!!! Forcing them to sit in rooms with Kol Isha is an atrocity. So there is no question – if your yiddishkeit will be compromised, there is no helping. If the IDF want any cooperation, they may as well become slightly more reasonable.
=> The main focus of a Jew should be his Torah. If that is not possible for personalfinancialother reasons, there is a HETER not to learn. But the whole world was created for Torah only, and without Torah, no country will be successful. Cancelling the Torah learning of the country with the most Harbotzas Torah is unheard of.