yichusdik: Assuming, arguendo, that I agree with else everything you wrote, I still object to the last paragraph: “There are frameworks that could support solutions that can be adapted to work for the chareidi oilem, such as hesder and nachal chareidi.”
This is an outright fallacy. The frameworks from the outset, even in groups such as Nachal Haredi and the Shahar program are flawed by design. The design flaw is that once a soldier joins the army, even with specific terms to keep certain religious liberties, the IDF still has the capability to renege their commitments to those terms. They have done this in the past and they will do it in the future. Until the IDF starts to be as sensitive to charedim as they are to women, there is nothing left to debate.