Health: yes, relatives come first – in most cases. I happen to have a relative who doesn’t have money. Why? He sits and learns in kollel. His wife doesn’t have a real job (she does things here and there for people to make a few shekels). They’ve contacted us asking for help. We’ve helped them, but also asked if it’s time for him to go out and work (he’s been in kollel for close to 20 years now). He refuses to. His wife has been offered teaching jobs, but she doesn’t want to take them – she feels that she should be a principal, not just a teacher, and accepting a teaching job is beneath her.
Why should I help them any more? They’re not doing anything to help themselves.