Song -“and in addition I have children.”
The choices for marriage will Not be as good as without kids. So you might have to settle for things that you might not have wanted to. Make sure you prioritize what you absolutely won’t settle for and what you can live with even if it’s not ideal.
“One thing my mother told me when I separated was that if I wanted to make sure not to do the same mistakes over again I would have to change how I thought and some aspects of who I was to make sure I wouldn’t go for the same kind of person.”
This suggestion won’t be easy to implement. Therapy will make this much easier.