Song -“its seriously not in the question. without going into details i wish it was possible but sometimes its not…”
I took your post from the other topic because I think it’s relevant to this one. I don’t know the reason of your divorce & I’m not prying, but whatever it was you feel you can’t live that way.
So how does one prevent the same thing from happenning again?
100% you can’t prevent because that’s in Hashem’s hand, but we can make Histadlus. So try to go back and see what little clues you missed when you were dating the first time around to clue you into what your spouse was really about. Try to focus on these subtle signs when you are dating again.