The question is if he is looking for looks to impress his friends or because he needs to feel attraction….
Presumably it is both. But I don’t think you should be bothered by that.
Chazal say that if there was no jealousy in the world, people would not build houses, or get married, or plant fields. Men want to have a big house so that they will feel respectable; they want a fancy car, a pretty wife, nice kids, etc., all so they will feel respectable.
Sure, we can aspire to not care what other people think of us, but chazal say that this is part of the reason that G-d did make us care what other people think of us. Specifically so that we would want to outdo each other and so we could accomplish things.
And if you don’t mind, I’ll flip the question. Aren’t a lot of the things women want in a spouse so that their friends will see what a chashuv catch they got? Don’t you want your friends to think what a talmid chochom you got? Or what a rich doctor you got? (Depending on your circle of friends.)