justThink, I’m sorry, but while you made some good points, what you said at the end was rude.
I think there’s a big difference between a woman’s desire to be attractive and a man’s “need” to have a pretty wife. For a woman, being attractive is one of the most natural, and important, things for her in order to feel good about herself. It is literally part of their nature. That isn’t shallow at all. It’s the same as a man’s intrinsic desire to be respected. Being respected makes a man feel good about himself. That isn’t shallow either. But if a man “needs” that his wife be very pretty in order to make HIM feel better, that IS shallow. Your personal satisfaction should not be dependent upon another person. Sure, it is important to be attracted to your wife, but if you need her to simply be pretty to feel good about yourself, that is shallow.