The “boys” as we call them, have to also learn to speak up for themselves and tell their mothers and the shadchanim that while they want to feel their wife is reasonably attractive, THEY DON’T CARE if she is size two. If a mother is repeatedly nixing shidduchim for her precious son on that basis, this is one of those gray areas where kibud em does not necessarily mean doing what mommy says or else, and a son has the right to respectfully tell his mom to back off a little and let him be a grownup and make up his own mind. (And yes, I asked a rov about this).
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