Okthen, although I happen to agree with you haskafically, in practical terms, a boy and girl still want to feel an attraction to each other, and there is NOTHING wrong with that. What is wrong is when the conditions for thinking someone is attractive are based on extremely arbitrary, superficial and extremely subjective issues. The number on a dress measns absolutwly nothing. If a girl is put together, clean and well groomed, knows how to do her hair and makeup, then she might look extremely attractive at a size 8, 10, or even (horrors!) 12. Lucille Ball was a size 12-14. Would anyone have thought her to be unattractive and fat?
We are too hung up on NUMBERS and not giveing enough attention to the whole package. If the rabbonim want to REALLY make a difference in the frum world, instead of only issuing kol koreys against concerts, they will immediately issue one against the permissibility of ANY shadchan asking a dress size number, and any parent OPFFERING that information to a shadchan. That nonsense should stop. Now. There are plent of lovely young healthy women who are not a size two, and they are GORGEOUS. And btw, how good-looking, well-built, and appealing are the boys, whose mamas are so makpid on getting sonny-boy a size two wife? It’s a two-way street. Our kids should not be getting the message that a specific standard of looks is such a major criteria. If someone is pleasant looking and not a complete turnoff to the other person, they should give it a shot,even if the subjective appearance is not what society has been stupidly telling them to want for themselves.