Reply To: Do I need to give a wedding gift?

I had a very similar situation. I did find it very offensive because as a married woman I would never attend a simcha, like a wedding, with my husband and forego sending a gift. A rabbi who may attend weddings 5 nights a week, it may be more acceptable for him not to, but in general I think it is bad etiquette. It should not be the norm for frum Jews.