Reply To: what's the Torah way of "finding a spouse?"

you hav to make sure that in your eyes the person has a nice personality that you agree with… you have to make sure your goals are the same….want to raise the same type of family. Love is not the means of a marriege one mustn’t be unattracted but love isn’t a big factor. It’s more to “like” and love is a lifetime of work after a marrieg that is when love is built between a couple when you hold each other up through pain and hardchips when you are happy together when you put all your might to conquer whatever tests Hashem may throw at you. When you work tirelessly to raise children together….as all this is done thats what results in generating love between two people.