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Even if a person should only consider someone with decent qualifications, you don’t marry just anyone you consider. You marry someone you connect to. Yes, I believe being “in love” is a concept that the Torah quite clearly recognizes. Marriage doesn’t necessarily need the highest level of it, but it’s important that it be there on some level. Marriage is not a business arrangement.
Where do we see the Torah recognizes it? For one, in every single mashal in which the mashal is of a man and a woman. It is so obvious that the ideal marriage in the Torah’s train of thought is one where the couple is “in love.”